Two Stubborn People

I'm incredibly smitten about my (now) husband.

A little backstory, we were dating for almost 5 years, he popped the question in June 2015, we married just a little under a month ago, November 12th 2016.

Yesterday, we went to his company's holiday party. It's usually a lavish affair with yummy food, an open bar and fun activities. This year, it was Winter Wonderland themed and they had this Tarot Card reader. I never had my future read this way, so I decided to go for it.

One of the biggest takeaways that I had was that Matt and I love each other, but we don't see eye to eye.

Matt and I are two stubborn people. Very, stubborn people.

It seems almost too good to be true to realize something like this so early in our marriage. But being together for 6 years beforehand, and living together for almost half of that time, it's pretty obvious to be aware of it. 

After getting the reading, I told Matt about it. He seemed a little caught off guard. He knew that we had our challenges, but hearing something like that may have made him step back to look at our relationship.

Being two stubborn people doesn't make a relationship doomed. That's only if you consider the relationship doomed. I've had the feeling of the relationship being set up to fail several times, but that feeling needs to be dealt with if you are certain you want to move forward.

Matt and I are set in our ways, and it takes a lot of emotional intelligence, and compromise for us to move forward and keep our relationship strong. It's hard, but we love each other very much.

Is this really it?

Over this year, it has had its ups and downs more than ever before. I've gone from a job that I didn't really like, to a job that I love, to being under immense amounts of stress about the future to not worrying at all. The year hasn't finished yet, and I can say it has been nothing short of eventful.

But is this really it?

Nope.

For years and years and years, I've tried writing a blog. I've always fantasized about being a blogger, traveling the world, getting free swag, writing about what I like and having people follow me. I realized thought that I was writing all these years for all of the wrong reasons. All of the reasons I was writing were selfish and conceited, free stuff and the pining of strangers. I forgot what writing made me feel like. It made me feel relieved when I would write about my worries and torments, and even more joyful when I would write about my happiness.

So this isn't really it. It's more than that.

Atlanta's IT girl is kind of a double entendre. It girl meaning, that 'she is it!' there's no rhyme or reason behind the blog. It's just it. Also, IT is in all caps because if I.T. which is what I work in and I have found both tortuous and interesting. I always have come back to it.

My husband always has bugged me about starting a hobby, because I do put too much into work. So as marriage is about give and take. I'm giving this to him. He doesn't know it yet.